The Sweetness, etc.

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I am watching (500) Days of Summer.

And I’ve just realized something:  I am Tom Hanson (Joseph Gordon Levitt).

It is funny, because I completely identify with his character despite the fact that I have been, at times, likened to Zooey Deschanel, who plays Summer Finn.  I mean, it’s pretty amazing the comparisons blue eyes, bangs and a generally cheerful disposition will get you, but I like being compared to her so I will spread it around even if it’s probably not so true.

Sometimes I also like to pretend that I am a little like the character Summer Finn – independent, quirky, hip, free-spirited and untamable.

Truth is, that I have much more of Tom “Perfectly Adequate” Hanson in me than Summer Finn.  Namely in that I have a long and storied history of developing wild crushes on people based upon fictions. Even when I have gotten to know people, I can still project my own version of someone onto someone and carry that around with me for a long time.  Like, a long, long time.

omg we like one band in common! we’re totally getting married!

It is why I am not only still single, but am always single.  The constant disappointment of learning that people are real people and not the built-up, fictional versions of themselves that I have been obsessing over makes dating hard.

It’s probably why I hated Summer Finn the first couple times I saw this movie.

You see Tom jump to all sorts of conclusions about his compatibility with Summer based on non-legit criteria (like a shared interest in banana slugs) and develop a relationship with her that is built on selfish projections, if not full on delusions.  The train-wreck of their relationship is almost entirely his fault because of this.

This problem I have also relates to The Jake Ryan Complex, which is a classic issue stemming from the movie Sixteen Candles.  See, Molly Ringwald has a crazy crush on Jake Ryan because he is hot.  That is all she really knows about him, but in the way of high school crushes, that is all she really needs to know.

He is really way super hot, in fairness to Molly Ringwald.

really way super hot.

In Sixteen Candles, Jake Ryan turns out to be a nice guy and also interested in Molly Ringwald.  He shows up to her sister’s wedding in a tiny convertible and gets her a birthday cake.

I have always wanted that – the guy who you obsess over from afar turns out to like you too and also turns out to be a person worth liking.

Here is a Ze Frank video that discusses a similar topic as well:

 

I know I post a lot of his videos, but it is because they tend to really hit me where I live.  This one especially speaks to my soul, even more than all the Cheese Monster stuff he put out.

The craving for The Sweetness has been the main problem of my life, worse by far than my addiction to cheddar.

From now on, I am going to try very hard to stop being like Tom Hanson, and to stop waiting for a Jake Ryan, and to let go of the Sweetness, is the whole point of this blog post.

I think it will be hard, but I think it is worth trying.

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Shuffle up and deal…

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Continuing the riff on this week’s theme: Hey!  My iPod is On Repeat!

(Fair warning: I have already scrolled through my first three songs – prepare to have your mind blown with high-quality, certified-awesome taste in music.)

Song #1: “One More Time With Feeling” by Regina Spektor off the album Far

My history with this song: Regina Spektor is probably my favorite singer of songs, and for sure my favorite singer of songs who is currently singing songs and is a woman.  The album Far came out in Summer 2009, right after I finished graduate school; I was all existential-crisis-y looking for a job.  I suppose as a balm to the fact that I could hardly even find jobs to apply for, and that when I did, I managed to do stupid things like get my phone number wrong on my resume, I began a summer-long rereading marathon of Nora Roberts’ romance novels.  I only remember that I had this Nora Roberts’ sesh because I also happened to be listening to Far on repeat at the same time.  I am fairly sure that for the rest of my life whenever I hear a song from this album, I will be instantly transported to the fictional Manhattan bar Lower the Boom, the setting of more than one Stanislaski-family romance.

worst cover ever, right? still - SUCH a good book. Ish.


Meanwhile, as regards this particular song off the album Far – it’s not my most favorite, but I still like it a lot.  I also appreciate that its title reminds me of the Buffy episode “Once More With Feeling.”(The song I’ve included below?  Also on my iPod, just in case you had any doubt)

Awful/Great?  Obviously Regina is excellent stuff, even though I can imagine she does not appeal to all.  I would prefer not speak to my Nora Roberts habit at this time.

Song #2: “Holland, 1945” by Neutral Milk Hotel off the album In the Aeroplane Over the Sea

My history with this song: Got the album senior year of college from Mia, who used to supply me with a steady stream of awesome music from bands I had never heard of.  Still listen to it all the time.  Love this song the most, particularly the phrase “the world just screams and falls apart”, which I once used as the title of a mix CD that I made during a time of moderate depression.  Use this song on my gym mix for treadmill-running, for which it is incredibly well-suited.

Awful/Great?  I warned you that you would have bow down to my good taste.  Everyone agrees that Neutral Milk Hotel are geniuses (don’t they?).  Plus – young adult writer/my hero John Green also loves them, which is enough for me.

Song #3: “Gonna Get Along Without You Now” by She & Him off the album Volume Two

My history with this song: I used to have a record with this song on it when I was kid that I would listen to all the time.  It also had songs like “What’s New Pussycat?”  (sung by children, not Tom Jones), “The Name Game” and the “3-6-9, the goose drank wine, the monkey chewed tobacco on the streetcar line” song (is that supposed to be a children’s song?  because in addition to the vice-ridden activities, the monkey gets choked and they all go to heaven in a little rowboat.  I don’t think it is a children’s song after all, but it remains pretty excellent…).

Anyway, when She & Him Volume 2 came out, I was really thrilled to hear the cover of “Gonna Get Along Without You Now”, which I hadn’t thought about since I was like 7.  I don’t really like the rest of Volume 2, besides this song actually.  I do , however, pretty much like Zooey Deschanel’s new TV show New Girl…which I feel is somehow relevant to the conversation, even though it isn’t really.  I am loving the character of Schmidt, in case you were wondering, and I look forward to continued romantic tension between Nick and Jess.

schmidt's sweet 'mono is the stuff of legend

Awful/Great? I feel like some people probably hate the She & Him and Zooey, and others love them and her.  Still – I suspect this song gives me a little more cred than the Justin Bieber that could have (and still might, later in the week) come up in this game.

Stay tuned – there might yet be some Bieber in this if that is your thing!